Running. Is. Not. Therapy.

If there’s one phrase that drives me crazier than any other (oh jk, it’s so hard to narrow them down, but for the purposes of this blog…), it’s this one:

Running Is (Not) Therapy

Can you achieve mental clarity on a run? Sure.

Can you distract yourself from your problems for a bit? Which also, by the way, is totally valid. Yes.

Can you gain confidence by pushing yourself to do things you never thought you could? Totally.

But running is not the same as sitting down and talking through your problems (including when those problems are created by your brain, not your real life) and finding solutions.

I’ve gotten laid off twice. Both of those summers, I was training for marathons. Running didn’t help me find a job (OK, maybe totally indirectly but that’s really more the blog than running); running didn’t help with my feelings of professional inadequacy and doom that I’d never find a job.

I was training for a marathon during my first serious bout with anxiety. Running didn’t solve what was making me feel anxious and overwhelmed (and honestly, probably, at the time was contributing to some of the anxiety.)

Running won’t cure my mom’s cancer, but if it would, I would run for as long as I could. 

Running won’t find me a boyfriend (or will it???) or get me a raise at work

But running sure as hell will give me a rush of endorphins, or at the least, make me feel not quite as bad.

Running gives me the power of knowing that if I run first thing in the morning, no matter what else happens that day, I ran. I did something for myself that I enjoy and I didn’t have to wait all day for the highlight of my day.

Running gives me a healthy way to be social, killing two birds with one stone.

As someone who’s dealt with mental health issues and believes fiercely in talking about it and shattering the stigma, I just fear that “running is therapy” or “running is cheaper than therapy” sends a message that therapy is not OK. Someone who might be on the fence and hear someone else boast that they don’t need it could feel that they’re weak if they need/want therapy, and it’s the opposite of that, since it takes strengths to admit to your faults and problems.

 

 

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Some mental health resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline (it’s important to note they also have online chat)

NYC Well Offers free, short-term counseling/peer support and assistance in finding other mental health services (also includes text/online chat)

Psychology Today Find a Therapist You can search by insurance, issues, modality of therapy (I’ve personally always done CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy because it’s very solutions-oriented, and, New Yorker here.)

Here’s amazing crowd-sourced Google Doc of therapists in NYC/Chicago/SF

And of course, you can always check through your health insurance, or many employers have an EAP (Employee Assistance Program) to help you find/access the services.

Some Friday Faves

Bondi Beach

Happy Friday!

If it’s Friday and this is a blog, I should tell you about some things I’m loving, eh?

Well, I am built for comfort, not for speed, so here’s a bunch of things I’m loving that have made me comfortable and cozy lately.

These Reebok sweatpants. In fact, I’m wearing them right now.

I’m obsessed with Jack Rogers, I’ve mentioned that, right? I’ve basically given up on any summer heels/wedges. If I can’t wear Jacks, I don’t wanna go. 

This one’s just for my blondes. You know how your highlights go from OK to “omg I need to make a hair appt ASAP?” No, me neither… but I like this dry shampoo that also helps cover my roots until my colorist can get me in next week… 

Related to dirty hair, when I don’t wash my hair, I almost always curl it now. When all my blogger friends were writing about the NuMe curling wand, I was a total sheep and bought one, and I regret nothing. It took me 33 years to learn how to curl my hair, but it was worth the wait. I typically start with the dry shampoo, curl it and then use Bumble + Bumble spray. (In fact, that’s what I’m going to do as soon as I finish this post.)

Things I’m great at include torturing myself, so here’s a moody playlist I’ve been listening to on repeat lately. 

Throughout the years, I’ve been lucky enough to try out quite a few running shoes. The other day I went to a Brooks Global Running Day event where we were gifted these Brooks Glycerin 15s. To be honest, Brooks shoes have never worked for me in the past, but these are nice and cushy and were comfortable for the 3 miles we ran in them. I could also live in these New Balance Fresh Foam Zantes, and I sort of have as of late. They’re great running shoes (I ran the Brooklyn Half and my tri last week in them, but they’re also cute lifestyle shoes.)

I’m SO excited for my first beach day this weekend; clearly I had to replenish my flash tat stash since I used the last of them teaching our Australian friends our flash tatting ways out on the Great Barrier Reef. I regret nothing.

For probably 10 years, I’ve worn the Burberry Classic perfume, which I’m pretty sure they don’t even make any more. At the Bobbi Brown sample sale a few weeks ago, I picked up the Bobbi Brown Beach perfume, and I’m obsessed. It smells just like the beach, so it makes me super happy and I probably wear too much of it because I just want to channel the beach…and also I have a terrible sense of smell.

 

What are you loving lately?