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Things I Am LOVING Lately

Thank you to everyone for your kind comments on my last post. The world is full of some crappy people, yes, but also some really awesome people.

I’m going to lighten up the mood with some of my favorite things lately, mmmk? Wonderful.

Athleta Ready Set Short

More TK on these in an upcoming post, but they are THE BOMB. I’ve long been obsessed with running skirts because they’re forgiving if you don’t have perfectly flat abs (which LOLLL I never will) but still let you show off your legs. These shorts are kind of perfect. They have a nice thick waistband and have a bit of room to them in the legs without being boxy. And the blue is adorable. I received them for freesies for an upcoming post, but I’m probably going to buy at least another pair for marathon training, I love them so much.

Fresh Foam Zante

I was not all about the first generation of the Fresh Foams, but my friends at New Balance legit stepped up their game for the Zantes. They’re a lightweight shoe that still has some cushioning and support and feel speedy. I’ve been wearing them a lot during the week but am not sure I’m going to wear them for the half.

Lorna Jane Comfort Sports Bra

Lorna Jane Comfort Sports Bra: There’s nothing exciting about this except that it fits and provides support without suffocation, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, without chafing. There may be more of these in my future this summer, too.

Lilly Pulitzer Annabelle Shift Dress

So I REALLY wanted to make this dress work, but sometimes being busty in a maxi dress just makes you look dumpy. We had a Junior League fundraiser at Lilly last night (HI FAVORITE THINGS AND FAVORITE PEOPLE IN ONE PLACE) and I got that cute cute dress above with a gift card I had from some birthday returns.

J Crew Laser Cut Dress

GET YOUR CREDIT CARDS OUT NOW IF YOU’VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT THIS DRESS. I’m here to tell you that it is 150% worth it — it’s super flattering AND it’s now on SERIOUS sale at J. Crew with code GETSHOPPING. So…get shopping, people!

 

What are you loving lately?

Sharing My #LifeUnfiltered Story

Did you read this article about Madison Holleran? She was a beautiful, smart, accomplished athlete at Penn who took her life last year because she was so depressed. Her friends and family talk about how she was constantly comparing her life to others’ that she saw on Instagram and while she knew that she, too, was posting things that made her life look perfect when it wasn’t, she ultimately wasn’t able to really believe that.

There was another great article that showed what her friends were really thinking when they posted certain shiny happy pictures online.

Loopy Doopy Popsicle Prosecco

Last night, Ashley and I went to the Conrad Hotel’s rooftop bar, Loopy Doopy, to celebrate her sister-in-law’s engagement. On the surface, it looks like I’m happy and enjoying myself (minus that stray hair in my bangs that pissed me off all night) with friends at a swanky NYC rooftop bar.

What you don’t see is the texts to Ashley just an hour before about how I wasn’t sure I wanted to go because I was feeling depressed and couldn’t drag myself out of bed. That I wasn’t sure I wanted to be the only single one with all couples…again.

The other day, I posted a picture of myself doing wheel at work. In a dress.

What you don’t see is the panic attack that came out of nowhere just hours earlier and my amazingly kind manager/friend/favorite person who took a walk with me and held my hand and hugged me while I cried.

I have a blog. I work in social media. I obviously love the good it’s done for us in making the world seem smaller, but I’m also acutely aware of how it can lead us to portray our lives with this shiny veneer and make us feel less than.

The Instagram effect is all too real. I love this quote:

You never know what’s going on just below the surface of that perfectly staged Instagram photo. Don’t assume someone’s life is perfect just because of how it appears. Ask people how they’re doing. If you’re the one struggling, reach out to someone. It scared me telling Jordan and Ashley how I felt, but I’m glad I did. Charlie said it really well: “it’s OK to not be OK.” And it is. We’ve all been there at some point.

On this Mother’s Day, I also just wanted to say that I’m thinking of everyone: my wonderful mother, my wonderful friends who have been blessed with children — but also those who are struggling to get pregnant, those who can’t be with their mothers today, those who have lost their mothers and those who don’t have great relationships with their moms.

That’s enough sap for today, I’m going to go ride my bike.