Thank you so so so so so much for all of your amazing comments, emails and IG messages after my momâ€™s passing.Â (Still doesnâ€™t feel real typing that.)
(In a very strange turn of events, Instagram Stories has been SO therapeutic for me â€” Iâ€™ve gotten the BEST messages from people, and it makes me feel less alone in what can feel like a really isolating time. Iâ€™m @theodorableÂ on there if youâ€™re not following me yet.)
Iâ€™m sure Iâ€™ll write more about grief here, but for now Iâ€™d like to go back to some of the lighter stuff, or at least some of the vain creature comforts Iâ€™m enjoying right now.
Before this happened, I said I wanted to get the hell away, and so Iâ€™m trying to book as much as I can (afford.)
First up on the Theodoraâ€™s Grief Tour 2K17: another weekend in the Hamptons in two weeks. I. cannot. wait. One of the next stops will likely be LA in August, since it seems that everyone I know lives there now, and I want to go somewhere near the ocean.
OK, and now I just want to be vain and talk about stuff, mmmk?
I have LIVED in these shorts all summer. I like to think that when I pair them with a sleeveless silky blouse and JacksÂ that Iâ€™m dressing them up for work, but who am I fooling? (Good thing I work for a startup.)
ThisÂ is probably the most comfortable dress Iâ€™ve ever owned. All I wanted was a dress that felt like a lightweight blanket around me, and, done.
Iâ€™m obviously crying a lot right now and my skin feels like itâ€™s a mess. Iâ€™ve put on this Beautycounter mask a few times a week, and it helps it feel as balanced as possible. I also have put on night cream during the day too. My solution to life right now is just to moisturize it, yes?
A friend who lost both of her parents suggested journaling, so obviously I had to go out and buy a pretty one. Iâ€™ve always discovered more about my feelings through writing. A lot of that has happened in this space, but some of this is far too raw to go here, at least yet.
This same friend also recommended Option BÂ by Sheryl Sandberg. I began reading it while my mom was sick and finished it this week, but I think I may need to read it again. The overall message of â€œthis isnâ€™t what you expected and planned for, but this is what you have, so you have to make the best of itâ€ really resonated with me and gave me something positive to hang on to.
Iâ€™ve had awful insomnia the past few months worrying about all of this, and the only non-phamaceutical thing that has helped has been lavender oil. I shake a few drops on my bed/pillows when Iâ€™m getting into bed and it does help relax me.
My latest Lilly is a particularly classy and neutral number.
SO MANY QUESTIONS
What STUFF brings you comfort?Â My friends, family, coworkers and mental health team and other coping skills all helpâ€¦but sometimes stuff does too.
Keep up your awesome comments and emails with advice for navigating this process â€” especially stuff to read!
What place in the world brings you peace? (Not your backyard, somewhere I can go get on a plane or drive to. I mean, I guess I could probably do that to your backyard, but, you know, a destination.)Â