Things Making Me Happy Right Now

I know it’s been kind of heavy over here for…a very long time, so this is going to be an entirely superficial post of things that are making me happy lately—and I’d love to hear what’s making you happy!

I usually hate any kind of “your mom would have wanted you to ____,” but yesterday I remembered that, when I started taking antidepressants years ago, my mom said, “I miss my happy little girl.” And I miss my lightheartedness too, so am trying to remind myself that I deserve to be happy, amidst and in spite of pain. I’m trying so hard right now to embrace those dualities, despite my brain wanting to keep me in pain.

Things Making Me Happy Right Now

Barenaked Ladies Coney Island

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Summer Concerts!!

I like music as much as the next person, but I’m not a Music Person, you know? Singing and dancing my heart out, though, has been way too much fun lately! Last week, the night before leaving for LA (with a 7am flight, to boot), Meg and I went to see 30 Seconds to Mars at MSG. She’s obsessed with Jared Leto, and I am obsessed with fun so I tagged along. Well, we bought GA floor tickets, sang our hearts out, and I might have bruised a rib when we scaled the barriers to try to get on stage for the last song. (It’s a thing, he calls people on stage for the last song.)

This Wednesday, we went out to Coney Island to see the Barenaked Ladies! (NYC friends, pay attention to the subway posters! That’s how I found out about this one.) I love the amphitheater out there, because it’s a really small venue, so all seats are good seats! I was OBSESSED with BNL in high school and was so psyched that they were playing…even when I realized that I first saw them in concert nearly 20 years ago, and I’m old enough to make a statement like that. They played more newer music than I would have liked, but it was so so worth it for the old school jams.

Yoga

Y7 Yoga

I first discovered a love of yoga during a “tough” time a few years ago, and it was my salvation. I still don’t have a studio I’m obsessed with right now, but I’ve been bopping around to a bunch of studios.

I’m not the most crazy about Y7—I don’t love the flow-on-your-own or that with the dark, they don’t move around much to correct alignment, but I do love their convenience to my apartment…

AND THAT I TOOK A BEYONCE CLASS THIS MORNING. The music was pretty quiet other than during the flow-on-your-own sections, but still, Beyonce.

Related, still obsessed with my Lilly Swell water bottle. I still think they are super overpriced, but, also, Lilly.

Books I’m Loving (/Recently Bought)

OK OK, I was reading a lot of deep and dark shit earlier in the year, but I’ve been listening to Grace’s podcast, and getting lots of good light recommendations, starting with The Royal We, lightly based on Will + Kate. Next up was Marriage Vacation. It’s this crazy meta tie-in with the show Younger, and it was a light easy read about a woman finding herself through separating with her husband. Even if you don’t watch the show, the book is still good on its own. I’m currently reading When Life Gives You Lululemons, Lauren Weisberger’s new book.

Other books on deck:

The Art of Memoir: and I’d love to hear about your favorite books on writing!

Tiny Buddha’s Guide to Loving Yourself: because I need it.

How Emotions Are Made: I’m just fascinated with how the brain works (or, uh, doesn’t.)

Death Benefits: How Losing a Parent Can Change an Adult’s Life—For the Better: I clearly bought this one for the subtitle. I’m trying to step away from grief books, as I said, but this one looks really productive. Still, not reading it yet.

Wild: To say I am OBSESSED with Tiny Beautiful Things (read it, then read it again. then read it one more time) is the understatement of the century, so I really want to read Wild, as it’s a tale of how Cheryl Strayed found herself after losing her mother to lung cancer and getting divorced, hiking the PCH. (Stay tuned for my own epic journey coming up?) I started reading it, though, and I haven’t been able to get past her talking about losing her mom without getting triggered, so it’s on hold for now.

(What’s on your reading list???)

Work Stuff

I’m still really enjoying not going to an office every day, but I’ll admit that my productivity certainly waxes and wanes more when left to my own devices alone. I’ve been doing Croissant, a service that allows you to try out different workspaces in your city (and it’s in quite a few cities now.) I hate the construction “it’s [this service] for [this industry]”…but. It’s like ClassPass for coworking is the easiest analogy here. I’ve done KettleSpace, which is cafe spaces, but I had a harder time concentrating there than in a traditional office.

Speaking of work, even if I am working at home, by myself, I still need to wear headphones. After 13 years in offices, old habits die hard. Even though I’m clearly not trying to avoid anyone, I’ll still sometimes have my headphones on with no music? Either way, I am glad I have my trusty Beats, which are totally a security blanket for my ears.

And you? What’s making you happy lately?

Four Great Days in LA

I am back from LA with my dreams and my cardigans, and my heart is full after five days in the sun with friends.

Ever since visiting there just weeks after my mom died (and then, again after my birthday), I’ve held a special place in my heart for the city. So, the week before last, after feeling particularly rough again for a few weeks, I booked a flight there on a whim, and I’m so glad I did.

(Speaking of particularly rough, I am really proud of this article I wrote for Women’s Health on my experience with depression and hospitalization.)

In the 3.5 days I was there, I visited the beach three times. NOT MAD. Upon landing, I picked up my rental car (pro tip: I generally use the Delta portal so I can get miles for car rental—you get 500 just for booking and then 500 per day, but otherwise I use Priceline and get some awesome deals) and headed straight for the beach!

hermosa beach

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hello from Hermosa beach!

Apparently I brought June Gloom with me, but I’m still not mad.

I kept talking about how I wanted to spend a lot of time at the beach while I was out there…and of course, forgot a bathing suit. I headed to Target, and I ended up getting the bikini top in this cut (I joke to friends that I’m a “boobfluencer” because my links that do the best are for bras or bathing suit tops) and the bottom in this one. Just a heads-up that the top seems to run a bit big—I got my normal 36D and it was a little too big. I was fresh out of fucks and didn’t even try it on.

Hermosa Beach

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I sat in the sand and talked to an old friend on the phone for a long time, as I gazed out at the waves, feeling content and loved. For dinner, I met my dear friend Jordan  at Love and Salt. The food wasn’t bad by any means, it was fine, but the company and the ambiance were better!

Sweat Yoga Santa Monica

I’ve been a ClassPass user (on my own dime, nothing sponsored here) for quite a few years now, and one of my favorite things about the service is that when you travel to other cities, you can flex your membership and use it there. (This link gets both of us $40 off, if you’re a new member.) So, obviously I had to try a class! I had Santa Monica beach plans, so I tried Sweat Yoga. Omg. First of all, 11/10, would yoga again. The class is a sweaty beast with weights, similar to CorePower Yoga. There were several flow-on-your-owns, similar to Y7, which I don’t love, but overall I really enjoyed the class sequencing, and I got an amazing workout and was probably sweatier than I have ever been. NOT KIDDING.

 

Santa Monica Beach

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Another day, another beach, and I met Amy for some beach and catch-up time. Of COURSE the sun came out the second I left the beach. Oh well.

Tocaya Organica Tacos Santa Monica

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I asked Amy for a taco rec, and she told me Tocaya Organica was great, and she was not wrong! For dinner, I was staying with Jen, and her boss treated us for dinner at The Tower Bar, and we rolled home in food comas.

Surfing

On Saturday, I did all the activities! I had not yet surfed in LA, so it was on the top of my list. I ended up going with Aloha Brothers for my lesson, mainly for ease of booking online + price, and I was not disappointed…with them. Me? Let’s just say there’s plenty of room to improve in my surfing game. I think I’m just going to practice surfer get-ups in my living room.

But, as I said on Instagram, surfing is my favorite thing that I suck at. When I do get up on that board, even if it’s only halfway, only for half a second, it’s so so worth all the falling down. (There’s also probably a life metaphor in there…)

And, I get beach hair, so it’s also worth it.

But why stop at surfing? Meggie and I have talked FOR YEARS about playing tennis together, and it only took her moving 3000 miles away for us to finally make it happen.

tennis boot camp

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We played with the Dial Jones Tennis Academy, and did a tennis boot camp which was a mix of tennis drills + bodyweight exercises. I’m so out of practice playing tennis (hello, NYC buds? anyone wanna play?) but it still brings me so much joy. (It was my first sport love before running.)  After these two intense workouts in the sun, I collapsed on Jen’s couch for a while…

malibu pier

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Before we drove up to the Malibu pier for dinner. We sat out there at the end, overlooking the water.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sunday morning, we drove up to the adorable Ojai, and I fell in love with this OUTDOOR BOOKSTORE. May I move in?

 

Plant Food + Wine

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And then I had brunch with my college friend, Shelley, and her MUFFIN OF A DOG, Lydia. We went to Plant Food + Wine, a delicious vegan spot on Abbot Kinney in Venice. It’s the kind of vegan that’s actually just vegetables, not a bunch of fake stuff pretending to be meat, and it was amazing.

We strolled Abbot Kinney afterwards, and you’d think Lydia was mayor of Venice for all the times she got stopped!

All in all, exactly the LA visit I needed to recharge my batteries and restore some peace in my life as I approach the year anniversary of losing my mom. Looking for more LA in NYC moments 🙂