In my 33 years on this planet, I’ve learned a few things, mostly the hard way.
NothingÂ worthÂ earning is easy, right?
But if there’s two things I’ve learned that have shifted my mindset massively, it’s these two things:
1.Â Treat yourself the way you would a treasured friend.
Would you tell your friend she was fat, not good at her job, not a fast enough runner, etc? NO, right? So why would you tell yourself those kind of things? Lately, when I’ve found myself being hard on myself, as I’m wont to do, I ask myself: what would you tell a friend? I try to be the kind of friend I would like to have, so I’dÂ neverÂ say to a friend some of the things I’m thinking when I’m being hard on myself.
2. Â Comparison truly is the thief of joy.
Especially living in NYC, there will always be someone thinner, more successful, etc. etc. etc. Even now, writing this post, I found myself wandering off into Facebook-land and ogling someone’s house they’d just bought. Do I want that for myself one day? Absolutely. Does comparing myself EVER make me happier or get me any closer to MY goals? NOPE. Speaking of goals, I’m not the rest-on-my-laurels type, but it’s an amazing feeling to have worked my ass for the past 2.5 years at my job and have that recognized in a promotion. But once I started realizing comparing myself to others did nothing for me, it became so much easier to accept others’ successes (and perceived successes, because, Instagram effect) for what they were and just do me.
Mindset tweaks that altered your outlook?